Our parents worried about music lyrics.

Something is seriously wrong with the world, I read a news article recently out of Atlanta Georgia –

13-year-old accused of stabbing 2-year-old sister to death

Police in DeKalb County have charged a 13-year-old girl in the stabbing death of her 2-year-old sister.

The young girl was stabbed multiple times and her body was found by her father behind the family’s townhome on Monday, DeKalb County police spokeswoman Mekka Parish said Tuesday.

Police are withholding the name of the 13-year-old who was taken into custody. A court hearing was set for Tuesday afternoon.

“She’s gone on to glory now,” the child’s father, Shelton Ray, told WSB-TV.

“Now it’s up to me to make it to where she is,” he said. “Like I tell all my children, they have to get themselves into heaven. I have to get myself into heaven.”

The toddler had multiple stab wounds, police said.

The girl’s siblings, all under the age of 5, were home at the time of the incident, authorities said. Parish says the toddler was attacked inside of the house and investigators do not believe the other children witnessed the slaying.


Published November 21, 2012 – Associated Press

Anyway, I sent it to a friend with a “WTF is this father on?  He’s either on crack or religion… or both!” comment attached.  Mind just a sec, while I just step over the indignation of anyone offended by my backhanded swipe at religious nutters, and feel free to lambast me for the inappropriateness of that comment later after I’ve gotten on with my point.

My friend read the article and then expressing the expected incredulousness followed by: “Makes me wonder if the kid was confused when the 2 year old didn’t respawn”.

Respawn?  Respawn?  I think that might literally be the most alarming thing I have ever heard regarding the potential impact of computer gaming on children.  The idea that video games could be so pervasive in children’s lives as to blur the lines of reality so badly as to cloud a child’s ability to perceive consequences to MURDEROUS actions is just beyond scary and disconcerting. Even if it were nothing to do with the case study above, the very concept of children being so immersed in gaming and so unable to identify reality is truly shocking and absolutely horrifying.

Unfortunately for the Small Child when I picked him up after school on Friday, the first thing out of his mouth was a request to play a video game called Just Cause II which, like most of them, I have never heard of, and don’t have the time or inclination to investigate its suitability for his age group etc.  Last week’s obsession was Dark Siders II and prior to that it was Team Fortress II (don’t know where we were when the original release of all these games come out but everything he is into seems to be into its sequel at the moment).

kids inappropriate content

We had a conversation, one which reoccurs from time to time about having balance in your life and not becoming obsessed by computer gaming and having other things to do with your time.  When gaming comes up I always like to have a chat with him about my intense dislike for the over exaggerated reliance on violence in these computer games for entertainment and my concern that they densensitize kids, like himself, to real violence.  I also frequently reiterate my refusal to allow first person shooter games for an 11 year old and do my best to keep him away from those, taking every opportunity to point out that guns are not toys, shooting at people in computer games is not fun nor is it funny, and as such I believe it should not be considered ‘entertainment’.  He’s a pretty switched on kid and I strongly doubt that he would ever fail to distinguish between reality and gaming…. but as a parent, you worry about how extremely impressionable and malleable their young brains are – and input indubitably affects development and output – how can it not?

How to deal with it though?  So many games, so little time, a new title to obsess over every week, so little inclination on my part to get bogged down in the minutiae of each game to determine appropriateness for a child of his age and maturity?!?  Did I mention that I don’t really consider myself a gamer?  I’ve played a couple of SuperMario games on Nintendo from beginning to end, and there was a flitration with Banjo-Kazooie and a short lived Donkey Kong thing for a while, but the closest thing I played for any real length of time was Farmville for ages as a ‘zone out, I’m on a heat pack’ distraction from chronic back pain a few years ago.  Note how ‘cutesy’ all these are.  And the complete lack of weaponry, death, destruction, red mist and shoot ’em all goals of these games.  I just don’t understand the appeal of a game that wants you to annihilate other characters, human or otherwise and he said “None of it’s real anyway, Mum.”

Ok, so it sounds like I don’t really have to worry about the Small Child blurring the lines of reality and fantasy worlds he engages with in computer games.  But you know, being a Mom, it’s kinda my job to worry.

Pizza? Raid? Pizza? Raid?

Let’s see what’s a guy to do?  Have a nutritious and delicious dinner with his family?  Or hide in the back room cos you’re made a date with a bunch of socially inept weiners all glued to their keyboards to go on a ‘raid’ ???  😐

Gee I dunno.  It’s such a hard choice… conversation with one’s loving family and yummy home made pizzas loaded with mushrooms, semi-dried tomatoes, fetta, ham, salami and all good things…. OR… ponce about the World or Wankcraft  smucking up NPCs and gobbing off at 14 year olds for cocking things up?

Hmmm… decisions… decisions?  Was never a fan, but it’s starting to rank right up there with the fucking frangipanis.

WoW Widow

Since Mr K got a WoW account some months ago, he’s become a bit of a hermit…. not as bad as some WoW players I’ll grant you, but he’s been sucked in and now has a healthy habit, that no doubt he’d tell you he could stop any time he wanted to. For example, I can’t see what he’s doing on his PC at the moment, but I’d put money on him having his game running on one of his screens right this minute.

I toyed, for a fleeting second… a very fleeting second, with the idea of getting an account to see what all the fuss is about and maybe having something to talk to him about over dinner that isn’t work related. But, never fear I managed to come to my senses and decided that I didn’t want to talk to Mr K that much after all! 😛


And as if to totally demonstrate my point, he just this minute came out complaining of wifi dropouts up the back and how dire it was that we fix it straight away, cos he’s in a battlefield that he really needs to do to get a weapon he really wants.  Sigh… sometimes I hate it when I’m right.

At least it wasn’t a porn related PC death.

Mr K’s computer has died today… and the exasperation is palpable.  Like this guy but for video blogging…. insert a well cultivated WoW addiction that he’s  currently in denial about.   It’s another little bane of our modern existence that we’ve become so completely reliant on our computers that when they go off the the Perly Gates (oh yes… there’s special place in hell for people who use puns this bad – but I couldn’t help myself) we’re beside ourselves in minutes.  No one can remember how we used to live without them or what we did for entertainment back in the dark ages before we knew about double clicking the mouse!

RMB:  Is this because of your propensity for cheap boxes?  😀 

Zelda corrupts entirely..

The only downside of being away for the weekend is missing Angel.  I miss my daily Angel cuddles, and I miss his little smiles in the morning, and I really miss his cute little voice.  So when I came home tonight and was so looking forward to seeing him and having a catch up chat to hear what silly things he had been up to for the weekend … I was quite disconcerted when he had nothing to talk to me about except his GameCube.  He’s been a pretty avid little Zelda fan, but lately he’s been a little on the obsessed side about the whole GameCube thing … and it seems to be getting worse… a lot worse.   I was quite literally unable to get any conversation out of him tonight other than stuff about his GameCube – it was all he wanted to talk about.  Even after I asked him multiple leading questions and then told him repeatedly that I didn’t want to talk about the silly GameCube.   He’s only allowed to play with it on weekends nowadays, as I think it probably distracts him when he’s at school – he’s certainly got a short attention span for things that don’t stimulate him as much as video games do – which is a real worry in itself. 

Sigh.. I guess I shouldn’t be surprised at his slightly compulsive behaviour considering I acknowledge I have a number of compulsive behaviours myself.  I am just not sure what to do about it… I would prefer to deal with the dilemma by throwing the damn thing in the bin.  But it seems a bit unnecessarily cruel to get rid of his favourite solitary pursuit given that he’s an only child, and has no one to play with most of the time. 

I am wondering how you teach a small child moderation…